Missy Elliott once said that she did not want a minute man. Providentially, if your guy does not last long, there are certain things you can do as a couple to improve his performance and enjoy your sex life more because without being afraid to say it, we need more time! Below is advice offered by doctors and experts:
What is premature ejaculation?
First of all we need to know what premature ejaculation is. For some people, premature may be two minutes while for others twenty minutes. It depends exclusively on an individual or couple and what makes them happy. Carol Queen the staff sexologist at Good Vibrations explains premature ejaculation as "ejaculation before you want to". Her subjective opinion was echoed by Daniel Watter,Ed.D., of the Morris Psychological Group saying there is no "normal" time frame, however if you count it, he believes that two minutes or less is premature. Urologist Eric Rottenberg, M.D. also added that perhaps the most essential paradigm is that it needs to come out as a problem. Because if it does neither trouble the patient nor his partner, then it is not an issue.
The causes of premature ejaculation
Dr. Rottenberg explained that there are no definite answers explaining early ejaculation existence. It could be simply that he is too much attracted to you and lacks restraint. Other ideologies vary from the genetic to the psychological, inclusive of neuro-chemical origins, urological problems like erectile dysfunction and inflammation, hormonal imbalances, thyroid disorders and anxiety and its control on the nervous system. Men on the hand have different sensitivity levels (just like how one can be more reactive to cold or hot temperatures) which would have an influence their ejaculation.Watter added. Also, if he has a history of masturbating too fast that he learned to come too quickly signifying that the guy may be able to relearn how to last longer, Queen said.
How grave is the issue?
If your man has always had an untimely ejaculation, then it is probable that it is his natural physical reaction, Watter said. However, if it is an abrupt behavior change, then it might have been triggered by emotional stress or a health issue like a prostate infection, he should see a doctor. Some men should
learn how to calm down-cognitive behavioral remedy can aid while others should work out feelings of shame and guilt that they relate to sex.Others have to deal with the primary sources of fretfulness and can profit from talk therapy added Dr.Jess, the resident sexologist at Astroglide.
How can you help your man last longer?
Many people think that they need to distract themselves from being so turned on; however, sexologists would like them to be more tuned into the pointers that both the mind and body are transmitting. Queen explained. Opportunely, it is an ability that can be imparted and nurtured through behavioral training, alone or with your partner, Watter said. Most doctors recommend that men perform the "squeeze technique," which entails getting to the point when ejaculation is almost unavoidable and then pressing the penis head (where it meets the shaft); it actually distracts the man from the compulsion to ejaculate, Queen explained.
Another alternative is the stop-and-start method the man discontinues before reaching orgasm and relaxes for 30 seconds to 60 seconds before continuing. Presumably it, it will take longer and longer for him to get to ejaculate.
Queen warned also warned that some men require a particular kind of training altogether. If when the erection is gone, sex is over, that is a dilemma. Emphasize on foreplay and after play, but particularly foreplay. So if he is quick to just wanting to have sex, tell him to slow. Over 90 percent of women are orgasmic, however only 25 percent experience orgasm during intercourse, Watter explained. Therefore, notwithstanding of your man's staying power, foreplay, and oral sex should be part of his bedroom collection.
Do the sex positions matter?
Many men prefer the woman lies on her back with the man on top. This can aid them to last longer Dr. Jess explained. Others may take longer if the woman lies flat on her tummy with her legs together during intercourse, as they find it difficult to penetrate deeper in this position, she added. The situation where the woman on is on top also works well because grinding against him instead of thrusting can aid him slow his rapidity while hastening up your odds.
That is all practicable, right? In your case, do you think that men ejaculate prematurely out of enthusiasm, self-centeredness, or just lack of control?